Tuesday, 9 January 2018

Grey area
I am becoming tenderer, more delicate. I admit it. At the same time that I´ve ageing I´ve losing testosterone and I think a little more in people now. A word I´ve just learnt is empathy; maybe what I´ve lost from my horlicks I´ve attained in empathy. Therefore I can´t be impassive about some injustices.

As a man I have the right to walk at any time of the night and alone on any street in any city and I can, freely, enter a bar and leave there a little stoned without anyone seeing it badly. But if I were a woman…
If I were a young girl I would have a good chance of being approached by a man who would see me as easy prey.
Julie Bindel denounces, again and again, the attitude of many officers, jurors, judges, lawyers and part of the society about sexual assaults. She sees, and I agree with her, two standards to judge this crime.

As far as women reporting rape goes, alcohol is the new short skirt. When the victim has been drinking, it is used against her at the reporting stage, and in court. But where the defendant has been drinking, it is often used to excuse or justify his behaviour.

Not only “our” criminal justice system is rotten. This is a plague that occurs anywhere —here in Portugal I hear male chauvinist comments every day and in Spain there are lads who are waiting for verdict because they are alleged in a case of a gang-rape when San Fermines— and I suppose there are more examples I don´t know in other countries.
It is sad that a woman goes to police and the policeman says she was drunk and she deserves it. Please, get out. This is a waste of time and next time don´t drink and don´t walk alone.
The worst is that these women, when they are in the street, feel a sense of deep culpability and put up with a heavy stigma. That “grey area” is not saying you yes; this “grey area” doesn´t allow to that silly bugger pounces on a teenager in her first night of new sensations and freedom.
Wants Julie Bindel a “feminist revolution” in order to change this misogynistic way of think. I believe this revolution is on the go but slowly. All of us can help. Why, instead of men, there are no women in all these strategic posts or what if a suitability test is prepared for these posts? In these circumstances cannot be officers without adequate preparation and empathy, neither in courts and jurors. I know this is difficult, but we could try. Since we tend to a more and more specialized world, there should be a studied project to end the sexist prejudice that we suffer.
Anyway, women like Julie will not stop until they get what anyone wants: be free to say no!
From my Borstal.
LDR

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